...do you deal with children who do not know what they like? When given a choice they get confused
...do you get over the fear of running into their parents around town?
....do you get some of their favorites things at the grocery store if they can't tell you what they are
About Me
- Gina
- Here I am now... The mother of 4 wonderful boys, present and former foster mom to seven boys!! True at times there is an overload of testosterone and fart humor...but I muddle through well enough hehe. I am spoiled too, there is no lack of gentlemen opening doors, car doors etc... of course that balances out with no lack of bad aim in the bathroom! The news that shocked the world....? We are expecting a baby girl in March 2008!! I am a stay at home mom. I work more now than I did when I held a "real" job. Hubby is in the Navy. I cannot convey how proud I am of him. He is truly the man of my dreams and a better husband than I ever thought I deserved. Well that is the general overview of me ;) enjoy the blog. Don't know something? want to know? ASK. I love comments to my ramblings too.
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You are doing great. If they go with you to the store, they might be able to point something out. Otherwise, just go through the weekend and you'll figure out what they like. My guys couldn't tell me either. And chances are they haven't had a lot of variety or understand different things. A lot will be new to them. They are probably really confused and scared too. They probably aren't used to having choices. We've already talked about the running into people thing, but I wouldn't worry too much about it.
One thing I always try to do is get a small toy or stuffed animal for each child so they have something that is just theirs. It seems to help.
My 29-month old can't tell me her favorites either nor choose among options (well, she can say a few food words, but we don't know if they are favorites or just words she knows). On the other hand, we don't intend to feed her her favorites, anyway. She recently started to ask for cookies or cake at every meal. Hah! She's not getting them that often LOL. As to meals and such, the kiddo doesn't get a choice most of the time--I plan the meals based on what's healthy and in the house and that's what she gets.
When I do want to give her a choice about something, I usually show her both items and she has to choose one (I hold them far enough apart that she can't take both). She's not so good at making choices and often declines to even choose (I've tried for over a year to have her pick her own clothes to wear. The first couple weeks, she did so. Since then, maybe a dozen times total she's made a choice.)
So, anyway, my point was that it's okay for them to not have a choice or to not choose. It's not necessarily a really bad thing.
(I'm a reader of Baggages and I hope to follow your story, too. We currently have a little girl and hope to be foster parents when she goes off to school. I like reading about other parents doing this and lending them moral support!)
I don't have any experience with foster children but I'm raising my sister and she was difficult as a young one.
She couldn't handle ANY choices even when it came down to her "favorites". So, frankly, I stopped her giving her choices for a time. Once she matured a bit, she expressed herself more but until then I just bought some "kid favorites" and let it go.
OH! And by the way, found you via baggage.
Nice to meet you!
I'd just go with stuff most kids like, until they can tell you what they want. Maybe once they get a little used to you they might tell you.
Did I miss it - what ages are they?
Visiting from Baggage - congrats on them and I hope it all sorts out.
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